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What it all comes down to...

Slowly, over the past several months, I have been noticing how hard everyone is on themselves, including me. Most of this is, I believe, unconscious. We follow trends, and a major trend of our times is self-improvement. There is no end point; there is no achievable goal to be good enough. There is always more: another book to read; another course to take, another diet, another supplement that will improve health.

This makes for a driven self-relationship that pushes and pushes...but to what end? It is no wonder then, that - within the realm of cognitive-behavioural therapy a new awareness is arising: the practice of self-compassion. Christopher Germer's seminal book "The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion" is a rich resource not only for the theory but especially for many simple practices that begin to shift awareness from being so hard on ourselves to being compassionate. When we are more loving with ourselves, we are more loving with others; not so hard, not so demanding.

Carl Jung knew this long ago. He said "I know that I stand in need of my own kindness, that I am the enemy who must be loved." How many of us can say that, and how many still have to discover it! And beyond that...there is no proving oneself or im-proving oneself for God. We are loved exactly as we are...and how realize it.


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Marilyn | Reply 06.02.2014 14.34

I downloaded this book to my kindle a few days ago and I look forward to engaging with it. Thanks Brenda!

Alice | Reply 02.02.2014 14.24

Brenda -- that's an amazing picture! Is it one of yours? It looks as though God just turned on a spotlight in the clouds!

Brenda 02.02.2014 14.54

Alice, I believe it is on I took while Joan and I were camping in Temagami a few years ago. I have a few different views...B

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